Stay in Shape During Pregnancy & Ease the Pain of Labor


We all know the importance of staying fit during pregnancy. Your OB or midwife will tell you to eat right, get moderate exercise, and of course drink lots of water. While walking, spinning class, or even prenatal yoga are great ways to maintain prenatal health, one of the best ways to actually prepare your body for birth is through dance.

I grew up attending the prestigious Dance Theatre of Harlem’s Pre-professional program. During these rigorous classes was the first time I learned how to connect with my body and control it. As a dancer you must be in tune with the music and the rhythm of the movement. And after having three children of my own, and supporting women as a birth doula, I believe the same can be said for birth.

Though no two births are exactly the same, there are some commonalities that most women experience: the undeniable change during transition where you have laser-like focus, the moment where you are ready to call it quits and wish someone else could deliver this baby, and if you allow it, the natural ‘figure 8’ like movement that your hips tend to make.

Each of my births took place in different locations (a traditional hospital, birthing center, and tub in my bedroom) but one thing was always consistent, making that swaying hip motion. Maybe it was because of my dance training or maybe it was some innate primal instinct we all possess, either way I knew it felt good.

A few months ago, the connection between birth and dance became so vividly clear that I knew I needed to share what I had learned with other mamas-to-be. Nancey Rosensweig, a certified nurse midwife based in upstate NY, who also happens to be an ex-professional dancer, echoed my sentiments by saying, “Surrendering to the natural movement of dance can be one of the best ways to prepare for labor.”

So I created Ready To POP Prenatal Dance as a safe, fun, and beneficial way for women to exercise during pregnancy and beyond. It incorporates simple ballet techniques for balance, hip-opening steps for stamina, and yoga postures for breath connections, all to music that makes you want to move and groove. As I tell all of my doula clients, “The sassy movements that got you pregnant are the same movements that will get you out of being pregnant.” *wink wink*

During pregnancy, dance helps your body maintain flexibility while toning your muscles. Throughout labor it can help move your baby into position and ease the pain of contractions. As a post-natal workout it can allow a new mommy a much needed hour out of the house and support a faster recovery.

As with any form of exercise, it’s important to work at your own pace and not over extend your ligaments, which are already loosened during pregnancy. Always consult your doctor before beginning any new routine and choose something that you really enjoy, which will help you stick to it.

Here are 3 simple dance moves to stay fit.
Demi-Plié 
How to Move: Start with your legs apart and your feet turned out into second position like in ballet. You can do this in the center of a room or with one hand holding onto a wall or a sturdy chair. Make sure your hips are square and facing forward. Your back should be straight and your core muscles should be engaged to maintain that posture. Now bend your knees stopping half way down, keeping your heels on the floor. Do this for 4 counts bending your knees to plié down, then for 4 counts straightening your legs. With each plié exhale, then inhale as you come up.

How it Helps: Labor is a tiring process. You use every part of your body when it comes times to push. This move allows you to stay in control while strengthening your legs and abdominal muscles. It also does wonders for your butt.

Rock it Out
How to Move: Standing in second position again, slightly bend your knees. Push your right hip out and straighten your legs. Bend your knees again and bring both hips back to center. Push your left hip out and straighten your legs. Now do that back and forth to the beat “1, 2, 1, 2” or to a song like Katy Perry’s “Roar” which is one of my favs.

How it Helps: This kind of hip-opening movement can also relieve lower back pressure during contractions and help align your baby into a proper birthing position.

Pump it Up
How to Move: Put both hands over your head like you are pushing up the ceiling. Do that twice. Now push both hands down on either side of your body towards the floor, twice. So the motion is up, up, down, down. Now as you pump up, slightly bend your right knee twice in front of you. As you push down, bend your left knee twice.

How it Helps: Aerobic exercise can reduce the risk of high blood pressure and gestational diabetes during pregnancy. It can also increase stamina for before, during, and after labor.

My Ready To Pop Playlist
Timber- Ke$ha & Pit Bull
Dark Horse- Katy Perry
Gone, Gone, Gone – Phillip Phillips
Treasure – Bruno Mars
Royals – Lorde
Burn- Ellie Goulding
Roar – Katy Perry
Wings – Little Mix

Find out more about Ready to Pop Dance Fitness!

What activity helped you most to stay in shape. Share your comments below!

Crunchy Love, 



The Truth Will Set You Free



I've fallen off. I take full responsibility for it. Actually, I've taken no responsibility for the fact that I got off track, lost my way, and have been doing a disservice to you, my lovely crunchy friends.

But that stops now.

You see I think there's a part of every one of us that wants to be "perfect". Seeking that impossible dream is bad enough, but what makes it harder to swallow is that you were doing it for someone else.

A boss you are trying desperately to impress. Your older sister, proving wisdom doesn't always come with age. That college professor who lacked to see your brilliance. Your husband or wife. Father or mother.

An audience of baby wearing, breastfeeding, clean eating, chemical-free, GMO hatin', natural product junkie, holistic lovin' peeps. (Yes I'm talking about you)

We all have our stories of trying to fill these enormous shoes. But the truth is, we'll never be truly happy living for others.

Were we created to think, dress, talk, walk, or act the same as the women down the street, or according to someone else's prefabricated idea of what being holistic, crunchy, or green should be?

Or are we here to determine our own story? Forming it all from what speaks to us from somewhere unknown.

Call it your gut like my new obsession, Ms. Olivia Pope, the divine, God, Allah, Yahweh, the collective consciousness, or Jiminy Cricket. No matter the name, it's that thing that tells you maybe you've taken the wrong exit, miles off in the wrong direction.

I'm doing a course correct.

I'm a human being who got caught up. Much like the now outcast Paula Deen, I was caught up in being "the expert" (or trying to be), in utilizing the latest marketing technique, in pretending to be bigger and more important to the world then I actually am.

I'm not trying to demean myself. I say this because I realize the world would not lose sleep if Granolaville were abandoned tomorrow, but I do realize I have a voice and people listen.

What's funny is that I'm actually a very private person. Under the mask of trying to be something I could be proud of, I closed off to only let you see and read what made me look like I had my shit together.

But if we are sticking to truth...that has been exhausting.

I'm a hot fucking mess sometimes. My kids eat hot dogs for dinner three nights in a row. I pretend  my boys swimming in the pool is an acceptable substitute for showers. I haven't ran in two weeks or juiced nearly as much as I should.

I've been putting shit off, letting things pile up, and been generally disorganized.

I'd forgotten how passionate I was about the power of women in birth and their right to have all the information. A zeal that was re-awakened by my awesome doula client and her awesome husband.

So no more excuses. You deserve better.

I can't live a life created so that others don't judge. Judgement is inevitable, so why not live a life that is true to you, the real you. Not some public persona.

You deserve for me to be authentically me. Talking about things that matter to you.

I love being a writer. I am truly honored that your eyes are reading these words.

So from now on I'm going to bring my 'A' game and write about the real topics in Granolavilles across the world, not the fluffy shit that crowds my Pinterest page.

I can't promise everyone will agree with me, or that I won't get flak for the things I write. But just know I offer these posts with the best intentions.

I hope you like it. I mean really like it. Not just with a virtual thumbs up,  but in a way that helps you, motivates you, inspires you, or just makes you feel....something.

If not, I'm OK with that too. All I can do is be true to me.

Do you ever feel like you are living your life for someone else? What helped you get back on track?

Love & Light,






6 Foods For Glowing Skin


Whether you're slathering them on your skin or including them in a fresh meal, these 6 foods will have lasting health benefits for your body.

Avocados

Eat em': These buttery fruits are leading the pack of superfoods. With their richness in antioxidants and essential fatty acids they will keep your skin supple and be great source of healthy fats. Spread on a sandwich or diced into a salad they are a delicious addition to many meals.

Wear em': Pureed avocado used as a face mask is said to increase collagen production and skin elasticity. They are also a great source of potassium, which is known as the "youth mineral".

Tea

Drink it: Tea has been an herbal remedy for thousands of years. More recently its antioxidant properties have been show to help with cancer, heart disease, and diabetes; encourage weight loss; lower cholesterol; and bring about mental alertness. 

Apply it: Wanna bring out the natural highlights in your hair? Brewed teas like Chamomile and black tea can be used to amp up your locks. Just saturate your hair with 8 ounces of cooled tea, place shower cap over head, wait 15-20 minutes and rinse.

Almonds

Eat em' or Drink em': Rich in vitamin E, calcium, phosphorous, iron and magnesium, they are the most nutrient dense of all the nuts. The tryptophan in them can aid in relaxation before bed and almond milk is a great alternative to cow's milk (my kids love it).

Apply it: To make an invigorating body scrub, grind 1/2 cup almonds in a food processor until fine, combine with 2 tablespoons organic virgin olive oil and mix into a paste. In the shower rub on any rough spots like your feet or elbows and rinse for super smooth skin.

Cocoa


Eat it: Cocoa is made by fermenting and drying the seeds of the cacoa tree. They have a high concentration of flavanols, plant compounds with antioxidant properties (more than tea and red wine) that help protect skin from sun damage and improve blood pressure for coronary artery disease patients.

Apply it:  The flavanols help protect the skin from damaging free radicals from the sun. Get all over protection by adding 1/8 cup unsweetened cocoa powder to your bath water. 

Yogurt

Eat it: Consuming this creamy goodness can actually help brighten your smile. The calcium and phosphorus strengthens tooth enamel and prevent cavities. Non-fat organic yogurts are also high in protein, which is essential for collagen production in your skin. Yogurt also contains lactobacteria, intestines-friendly bacterial cultures that foster a healthy colon, and even lower the risk of colon cancer.

Wear it: Yogurt contains lactic acid, an alpha hydroxy that's great for sloughing away dead skin cells and unclogging pores. A simple plain yogurt facial applied two or three times a week will leave you with soft, supple skin—and save you a load of cash on beauty products.

Strawberries

Eat em': These red berries pack a powerful punch! The have over 100% of the daily recommended dose of Vitamin C, which helps boost your immunity. Their anti-inflammatory properties can fight against many inflammatory disorders, such as osteoarthritis and asthma. Strawberries are also very high in fiber, which can help maintain regular digestion. Just make sure to buy organic as the non-organic ones are on the dirty dozen list.

Apply em': In addition to being a yummy snack when covered in chocolate they also help clear up acne and oiliness, make skin younger and smoother, whiten teeth, reduce under-eye puffiness, leave hair glossy and beautifully conditioned, and so much more!

What's your favorite "double duty" food?

Nourishing my skin in Granolaville,



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5 Foods For Healthy Hair


My hair has been on my mind recently. Far more than I care to admit.

8 months ago I took the leap and cut off all the processed ends to reveal my curly, soft and natural texture.

Since then I've been doing everything in my power to maintain length and keep the overall health of my hair. I've had good days and bad, but I have to say this natural hair journey has really made me take stock in more than how long it is or the products I put in it.

I don't know about the men out there, but I know most women care A LOT about the quality, texture, and overall fabulousness of their hair. I might go as far as saying that I...I mean some of us, can be pretty vain about our tresses.

It's OK to admit, I won't tell.

A woman's hair can be her badge of beauty, or a sign that she is a hot-mess without a mirror or a best friend. For most of us keeping it from breaking, being dry, or unruly is our only concern.

On my journey towards living the most natural life I can muster, I've discovered that my hair was the one thing I had sorely overlooked. Being a crunchy Black girl I had to overcome some deep issues (mostly the fear of looking like some cotton-pickin' slave), but I'm on my way.

Summer 2012
Summer 2013
NE WAYSSSS...I've now been free of the creamy crack for months (praise Jesus!) and have learned what my hair doesn't like (dryness, too much manipulation, ugly hats) and traded them in for practices like deep conditioning egg treatments and drinking plenty of water.

I've removed all the harmful chemicals from my hair product arsenal---stripping it down to only the bare essentials, and  replacing the necessary stuff with all natural products like Jason's Biotin Shampoo & Conditioner.

But wait! It's not just about what you put ON your hair, it's also about what you put IN it.

Our hair is a living, breathing, part of our body that needs all the same vitamins and nutrients to thrive. So if you aren't eating right, then you aren't going to have the shiny, voluminous hair you deserve. 

So do yourself a favor and feed your hair from the inside out with these 5 hair strengthening foods.

Salmon


This fresh water friend packs a one-two punch of Omega-3 fatty acids and protein. Without essential fats your scalp becomes dry and your hair as dull as 10th grade Math ( do you really care what time the trains will get into the station?). Just be sure to get wild caught salmon to avoid the antibiotics and other nasty stuff that gets pumped into many farm raised fish.  If you fancy a vegetarian or vegan diet include one or two tablespoons of ground flax seed in your meals for some plant-based omega-3 fats.

Dark Green Vegetables


Turns out Popeye knew a thing or two (although it makes me wonder why he was bald if he was eating so much spinach). Dark green veggies like swiss chard, broccoli and kale are chocked full of Vitamins B & C. Both contribute to creating sebum, an oily substance secreted from your hair follicle that acts as a natural conditioner.

Beans

They're not just a musical fruit! Legumes like lentils and kidney beans are not only a great source of protein (which your hair is made from) but they also provide an ample amount of biotin, which can prevent our locks from feeling brittle. Just make sure you don't plan on any hot dates after ingesting these bad boys.

Nuts

I am a HUGE fan of almonds. We drink almond milk, roast them, put them in salads, or grab a handful as a snack. Turns out pecans, cashews, and almonds contain lots of zinc. If you have a zinc deficiency you might notice a large amount of shedding when you comb or brush your hair. So save your hair, and stuff you face with nuts!

Eggs


While I know this won't work for my vegetarian lovin crunchy friends, the rest of us could stand a few more eggs in our diet if we want to load up on hair strengthening protein, B-12, and biotin.

Got any food tips for growing strong healthy hair? Share your crunchy wisdom below!

 Washing, Rinsing, Repeating in Granolaville, 



DIY Natural Sunscreen


You might be looking at my cartoonishly dorky logo and notice that yes indeed...I am Black. This comes as quite a surprise to many people, especially when they speak to me on the phone (what is a "Black" voice anyway?)

But I digress.

Growing up, because of my cocoa-brown complexion, I was under the impression that getting sunburned was not possible. Red skin, painful to the touch, only plagued my fair-skinned friends, not me. Apparently my crispy black shoulders, from two weeks at summer camp, didn't get that memo. 

Protecting your skin from the sun's UV rays is important, no matter what skin tone or ethnicity you are. Once I began using sunscreen---the highest SPF I could find---I thought my skin was shielded from any possible damage.

I've come to learn that most popular brands of sunscreen can actually cause more harm than good. While they do stop skin from becoming burnt, they do little to nothing to slow down the accelerated aging of skin or prevent cancer causing cells.

In addition, there is even research pointing to an increase in cancer when sunlight hits the synthetic or natural components of sunblock, causing cell mutation. Allergies, hormone disruption, and cell damage are also found with the use of sun screens, especially those containing Oxybenzone, which is a chemical that allows other chemicals to penetrate the skin and is in nearly 600 sunscreens sold in the US (even those varieties marked safe for children).

Here is a list of chemicals to check for:

Aminobenzoic acid – carcinogen implicated in cardiovascular disease.
Avobenzone – carcinogen
Cinoxate – evidence of skin toxicity
Dioxybenzone – strong evidence of skin toxicity and carcinogen; hormone disruptor and has been found in waterways, soil and air. Has been shown to have a “gender bender” effect in animals
Diazolidinyl urea – carcinogen, endocrine, central nervous system and brain effects, skin toxicity and compromises the immune system
Ecamsule – carcinogenic
Homosalate – endocrine disruption
Methylparaben – interferes with genes
Octocrylene – found to be persistent and bioaccumulative in wildlife, liver issues and carcinogenic
Octyl methoxycinnamate – accumulates in the body, disrupts liver and is a carcinogen
Octyl salicylate – broad systemic effects in animals at moderate doses
Oxybenzone – carcinogen and contributor to vascular disease, may affect the brain and nervous system in animals
Padimate O – carcinogen
Phenylbenzimidazole – carcinogen
Phenoxyethanol – irritant, carcinogen, endocrine disruption
Sulisobenzone – strong evidence of skin toxicity, affects sense organs in animals
Titanium dioxide – carcinogen when in nanomaterial form
Parabens (butyl-, ethyl-, methyl-, and propyl-): Parabens may mimic estrogen which can disrupt your body's balance of hormones

So, how do you protect your skin from the sun without slathering on a cocktail of toxins? Well first thing is don't be afraid of the sun, just be smart. The benefits of sun rays, which is the only natural way to deliver Vitamin D to our body, are becoming more and more clear. Vitamin D deficiency is a huge issue for many Americans because of the indoor lifestyle many of us have adopted. It has been linked to a variety of issues including, breast cancer, gestational diabetes and preeclampsia.

Don't hide from the sun, just don't bake yourself like an oven-stuffer roaster.

When you are exposed normal amounts of sunlight make sure to wear loose fitting clothes, find shade whenever possible, and invest in a good hat. Foods high in Lycopene, like tomatoes have been shown to prevent sun damage, as well as animals who eat algae--- which are high in the antioxidant astaxanthin.

For those days on a beach or boat, when you know you'll be getting more sun than usual, you can make your own natural sunblock from items you can find at any health food store. Here's a great simplified version of a recipe I'm eager to try from Frugally Sustainable:

Ingredients

-1 ounce oil blend (Sesame oil, Coconut Oil, Hemp oil, Avocado oil, Soybean, or Peanut Oil)
-1 ounce beeswax (adds waterproof properties)
-1 ounce butter blend (i.e. Shea butter, mango butter, or cocoa butter)
-1 teaspoon vitamin E oil
-0.36 ounces zinc oxide powder ( you can find it in the diaper aisle of your grocery store)
-30 drops essential oils, optional just make sure not to use anything with citrus, as it could cause burns

1. Gather ingredients and kitchen tools.
2. In a double boiler, over low heat, melt the oils, beeswax, and butters.
3. Remove from heat and allow to cool slightly prior to adding the vitamin E oil, zinc oxide powder, and essential oils. Note: Wear a mask when working with zinc oxide, inhaling it can be dangerous.
4. Stir until zinc oxide is dissolved. 
5. Pour into a push-up or roll-up dispenser. This recipe will produce a product similar to a lotion bar or sunscreen stick. You could easily clean out and re-purpose a used deodorant or lip balm container. 
6. Allow to cool and harden on the counter overnight.

If this is too time consuming for your liking, virgin coconut oil has been shown to block the burning radiation from the sun. Try oiling up with that the next time you hit the beach. 

If you aren't into being a cosmetic chemist, you can also find the The Environmental Working Group's 2013 list of the best sunscreens available on the market.

Do you use sunblock on your self or your kids? Have you tried making natural sunblock?

Soaking it up in Granolaville,







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8 Steps to Growing An Organic Garden



There's something about this time of year that always excites me. I don't know if it's the potential that seems to blossom in the Spring, or the green buds peeking through the ground. Whatever it is I get pumped when I can dig my hands in the dirt, and start planting!

Creating your own organic garden can be a fun weekend project that takes little more than some elbow grease and a plan. Whether you are looking to put in a large plot or want to start out small, organic gardening can be as easy as pie...maybe even sweet potato!

So what is an organic garden? Well, its one that's cultivated without the use of fertilizers or herbicides to promote the growth of fruits and vegetables. Instead sunlight, organic soil, seeds and water can turn your backyard, or apartment balcony into an organic haven. From Organic Gardening:
When you garden organically, you think of your plants as part of a whole system within nature that starts in the soil and includes the water supply, people, wildlife and even insects.

Step 1: Prepare the Soil
Gardening soil isn't just dirt. In order to ensure your plants get all they need to flourish, you must first start with a nutrient rich base. If you need help determining the quality of your soil you can have it tested by your local agricultural office. Be sure to tell them you are planting an organic garden so they can provide the best mix of ingredients to start you off. The best time to test is in the fall, whatever you add in will have time to enrich the soil over the winter, and make for a beautiful harvest.

Step 2: Compost
You'll need to make sure you have a good mixture of organic matter like leaves or grass clippings which can be acquired right from your backyard. Decayed plants, vegetable scrapes from your kitchen and egg shells can provide a good start to your composting bin. Mushroom dirt is also a rich addition to your soil by improving drainage of clay dirt and increasing microbial activity. Stay tuned for our upcoming article on Composting 101.

Step 3: Choose the Right Plants
Picking the right planets for your geographic climate is an important step in planning your garden. While grapes may run wild in the North West, you'll find they are much harder to develop in colder North Eastern states. Choose vegetation that is well suited for the amount of light, moisture, and soil quality your garden will receive. Look for seeds or plants from your local farmers market that were raised without chemical fertilizers, and if possible were not genetically modified. Real food = Real Health.

Step 4: Give Your Crops Space
Plants you are harvesting should be grouped together in raised beds that can protect them from foot traffic. Grouping also reduces weeding and water waste. But be aware of the amount of space each plant will need to avoid over crowding and casting too many shadows.

Step 5: Water, Water, Water...but not too much
The best time to water your garden is in the morning when it is still cool, this leads to less evaporation and water consumption. If you water at night the plants may stay too damp and cause fungus growth. Always water the roots to avoid damaging leaves and flowers. Experts recommend substantial infrequent watering---about 1 inch of water per week.

Step 6: Weeding
Probably the least fun step of gardening is getting rid of those pesky plants that steal nutrients, water and sunlight from you beautiful food. But, no matter how time consuming, weeding is a necessary step to promote the full growth of your garden. As you are on your knees just think of all the fresh air and Vitamin D you'll be getting!

Step 7: Protect Your Plants
Whether its deer, ground hogs, or caterpillars, nature’s creatures always seem to find a way to nibble on or even eviscerate lovely gardens. Besides fences, netting, and Marigolds to ward off larger animals, there are some chemical-free ways to keep crawling critters at bay. The Daily Green suggests:
Organic weapons include Bacillus thuringiensis, a naturally occurring bacteria that disrupts the digestion of caterpillars and other leaf-eaters. You can also use horticultural oils, insecticidal soaps and garlic and/or hot pepper sprays.
Step 8: Harvesting
You’ve tilled, planted, watered, and weeded, so now its time to reap the rewards! Your organic fresh fruits and veggies can make mealtime a fun event. Have your kids pick from the garden right before preparing dinner---they'll make the connection that real food can be delicious. Share your harvest by giving a gift basket to family or neighbors. If you have an overabundant crop you can always freeze or can any leftovers until its time for next years batch.

However it's used, your organic garden can be a healthy and delectable labor of love.

Have you started your garden yet? Share your tips in the comments section.


Happy Spring from Granolaville,

 


10 Natural Ways to Ease PMS



Yesterday I was possessed. Not by some mythical creature, alien life form, or demon from the depths of Hell...well maybe it was a demon. (Men keep reading...this information could save your life too)

I should start by saying I've become a pretty patient person, but please don't ask my husband to confirm that. Actually, for a woman living in a household with 4 boys (yes the hubby is included in this count) I should get Sainthood for all the shenanigans I have to put up with.

I deal with never-ending piles of clothes on the bathroom, bedroom, and family room floors. I barely make a peep about the sticks, balls and Legos that I pick up each day, only to have them "mysteriously" reappear in another room minutes later. I've even gotten used to repeating what I just said 4 times without going to my "Black Momma" voice. ("White Mommas" have this voice too, it just requires a little less neck movement)

N-E-WAYS....the point is, I almost never lose my cool, until about 12 hours before my monthly fertility reminder comes to town, and stirs up a whole bunch of shit.

Last night it was like some ranting and raving lunatic had taken over my body and I could barely keep it together. Little things that I would have shrugged off sent me flying into the stratosphere, crashing back down to crazy Bitchville (which is not nearly as zen as Granolaville).

I could see myself being an utter nutcase, but somehow couldn't stop it. PLEASE tell me I'm not the only one who has had these moments? If you haven't experienced the cramps, headaches, bloating, sugary cravings, depression, or high-flying mood swings than consider yourself lucky.

It is estimated that 50% of ALL women experience PMS, or premenstrual syndrome. That's a whole lot of unstable, doughnut eating ladies!

While not everyone shares the same PMS symptoms, it can be difficult for most women to find relief.

NEVER FEAR! I was a Googling freak this morning trying to find easy and natural ways you can deal with this stressful time and hopefully NOT have it end in your kids toys being thrown out, or your husband sleeping on the couch, indefinitely.


10 Secrets to Easing PMS

1.   Steer clear of sugar. Giving in to your sweet tooth could result in hypoglycemia, which is an abnormal drop of sugar in your blood once the tasty treat has left your system, leaving you feeling more irritable and lethargic than before.

2. Avoid alcohol. I know knocking back a glass of wine, or a Baily's Irish Cream with milk (not that I would know) might seem like a good idea to relieve stressful feelings, but since alcohol is a depressant you might end up feeling worse than you did. Also, "it disrupts the liver's ability to metabolize hormones, which can lead to higher-than-normal estrogen levels."

3. Stay away from salt. Eating foods high in sodium can increase water retention, causing bloating and breast tenderness.

4. Move your body. Aerobic exercise causes a release in happy hormones called endorphins that can help elevate your mood.

5. Get some rest. Interrupting your normal sleep pattern can make your fuse shorter than normal. Make sure to get a proper night of rest, some of these tips may help.

6. Calcium. Women with low levels of calcium have been shown to have a decrease in symptoms when taking this supplement.

7. Chaste Tree Berry. This South East Asian herb is very popular in Europe for reducing breast tenderness

8. Magnesium. This mineral naturally occurring in foods like black beans, peanuts, broccoli, and spinach has been shown to improve mood swings.

9. Evening Primrose Oil. This little flower has many uses, including aiding in ripening the cervix to induce labor, but for PMS it seems to only be backed up by anecdotal evidence of its efficacy. Never the less, many women throughout the world swear by its benefits.

10. St. John's Wort. For centuries, the flowering plant St. John's wort was used as a health remedy in Europe. Today, St. John's wort is best-known as a treatment for depression.

Do you have any secret remedies for easing PMS?

Regaining My Sanity in Granolaville, 









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26 Things You Wish Your Kid Said on Mother’s Day



Sometimes I want to change my name, but not tell my kids.  That way when “Mom” gets said on constant loop I can just ignore them.

Other times I think about how long I can hide out in relaxing places like the grocery store.

I don’t want it to sound like I don’t love my kids, because I do. But sometimes they make it very hard to focus on the task of making them into upstanding men, instead of running away, screaming into the night....

Their little brains can’t comprehend the sacrifices I gladly make for them.

Motherhood is not for girls, but for women who can defy all the crazy shit that comes along with it.

And I’m guessing some of us don’t get the real praise and appreciation we deserve.

Sure, we can look forward to a Mother’s Day clay pot, breakfast in bed, or macaroni necklaces.

But is that REALLY what you need?

No, no, no….

So today, in celebration of what it means to be a mom, I want to tell you all the things your Mother’s Day card should say.

Dear Mom, 
This Mother’s Day I want to do something REALLY special for you.  Cherish this shit, you may never hear it again.

1. Thanks for giving up that last slice of apple pie, we know it’s your favorite and is a pain in ass to make.

2. I really appreciate it when you answer my inane questions through the bathroom door. You always know the answer to stuff like why birds always poop on my swing set.

3. I’m sorry that your boobs will never be perky again. 30 of months nursing me should get you some kind of award.

4. You should have a glass or wine (or five). After listening to us fight for the last 3 hours, you deserve it.

5. I apologize for knocking on your bedroom door as soon as dad unstraps your bra. I can get myself a glass of water.

6. I feel so much healthier now that you make us eat kale and other leafy green vegetables.

7. You don’t need to buy me new clothes, I’m cool with last year’s wardrobe.

8. From now on I’m going to start eating my entire school lunch. Hell, give me more carrots!

9. I’m tired of watching Wizards of Waverly Place, you should put on that Channing Tatum/Ryan Gosling movie you’ve been dying to see.

10. Please allow me sort, wash, dry, fold and put away all of my own laundry.

11. Yes, I can’t wait to try that new (insert healthy recipe) you found on Pinterest!!

12. I’m sorry for lying about brushing my teeth; I know you touched my toothbrush and saw it was bone dry.

13. The fact that I can take up a Queen-sized bed, even though I only weigh 35 pounds, is jacked-up.

14. Please enjoy your “girls night out” guilt-free. Dad and I will be just fine.

15. I totally knew it wasn't OK to draw on the wall with permanent marker.  I’ll clean it up.

16. Wow you pumped breast milk in your office bathroom just for me, thanks!

17. Let’s skip my 7 A.M. game lacrosse, you should sleep till 10.

18. Sometimes I run water in the sink and pretend to wash my hands. Sorry I know that’s gross.

19. My room? Already cleaned.

20. I would so much rather stay home with the babysitter. You and dad enjoy a quiet dinner, without strangers glaring at you.

21. Of course I prefer your cooking over Grandma’s.

22. Thank you for banning High Fructose Corn Syrup in our home.

23. I don’t know what the f**k I was thinking asking for a dog/ hamster/cat/ pet monkey. You know you'd be the one to take care of it.

24. It is both rude and inconsiderate of me to wake you up at ridiculous intervals.

25. I understand you have a headache; I’ll go sit quietly in my room and read.

26. Lastly Mom, I just want you know that no matter what, Dad's always wrong.

Love always,

Your kiddo

Please, oh please, share what you wish your kid would tell YOU this Mother's Day!


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Planning a Medicated Birth? You Can Still Benefit from Hiring A Doula.



"F-this, give me the drugs!"

That seems to be the general feeling whenever the leading lady in a movie is about to push out her baby.

While sometimes having a medicated birth is what a woman chooses, does that mean having a doula becomes obsolete?

I've talked about a few of my experiences as a birth doula, but generally I'm kinda mum on the topic. That's pretty interesting considering I could talk about vaginas, babies, birth, and boobs, ALL DAY LONG!

I recently followed-up with a potential client to see if she had discussed my services with her husband and wanted to hire me.

I've had my fair share of rejects, mostly because the client wasn't prepared for how much hiring a doula costs (I think most women under charge).

I'm totally fine with that because I believe there is a doula for everyone. But this is my business, which means I have to charge based on the value I'm giving.

However, this client didn't hire me for a different reason. After a few emails with this potential client, we'll call "Ashley", I realized that money wasn't the issue.

You see Ashley was planning on having a medicated birth. She figured that because I spoke a lot about the inner strength that women possess and how natural birth is more beneficial for baby and mom, that I would not be able to support her.

In her mind she was probably thinking, "I'm not going to be feeling any pain, what do I need a doula for?"

The truth is, having a doula attend your birth can be SUPER beneficial, even if you plan on using pain medication.

Prior to Birth

All of my clients get the same amount of attention and care from me before delivery. My job is not to determine how each woman decides to give birth, but to help them have an informed, empowered, and safe delivery.

While most women I talk to have the intention of having a natural birth, it is by no means a prerequisite for me to support them. I provide as much information about the pros and cons of using artificial pain management as I can, and then let the woman decide.

Some women feel very strongly, from the get-go, that the pain of birth will be too much to handle. I try to point out, especially for first time moms, a few key points:

1. Most women don't know, until they are in it, how powerful, resilient, and amazing their bodies are.

2. Most women also don't know the world-shaking pain they will feel during transition or the inevitable "ring of fire".

3. But, each of our bodies were made to birth the children we created. Mother Nature has been doing her thang for a LONG time, trust her.

For those who are on the fence, I do my best to offer natural comfort measures that don't have the negative side effects of medication. Doulas are known for having an extensive "bag of tricks" including: massage, acupressure, aromatherapy, visualization, meditation, movement, walking, birthing balls, and deep breathing, just to name a few.

But if the mama decides that she's going straight for the meds, I respect her decision.

During Labor

The beginning stages of labor can be pretty misleading. I've had clients who say to me, after a few hours of contractions, "Wow this is easier then I thought." This is somewhere between 3-7 centimeters of dilation.

I usually encourage them to continue resting, walking and eating, then chuckle to myself because they have NO idea that this ain't the real deal.

Mamas often think that as soon as they start to feel pain they should get an epidural or narcotic. But most OB's and Midwives don't like to administer drugs too early because it can often stall labor, and wear off before transition.

On the other hand, once a woman has reached a certain point in her labor (around 8 or 9 centimeters), many doctors are reluctant to administer medication because contractions are very close together and can hinder the injection being given. *(I was denied an epidural during my first pregnancy because I was too far along.)

No matter if they decide to get something to "take the edge off" or not, no laboring woman can go without having any pain or discomfort. Which is why having a doula there to remind you of the process and how to stay focused can be very helpful.

Some time during the end of this phase of labor the pain becomes more intense. I mean like someone is ripping you open from the inside, intense.

This is usually the point in labor, no matter how confident and prepared a woman is, she questions whether or not she can do this.

It usually sounds something like this, "No, no! I can't do this. I feel like I'm dying. Someone please put me out of my misery. Get this kid outta me!"

If she opts to get an epidural at this point, it's my job to make sure she is clear on what will happen next. Getting pain medication is ironically often a very painful and scary process.

I've embraced clients who were in tears while getting an epidural, all while their partners stood by feeling helpless.

Though that discomfort is temporary, having that calm support can make a world of difference.

Pushing Time!

In some cases when a woman has received an epidural, it has worn off by the time she's ready to deliver her baby. In those cases it's important to have a doula there to guide her through the sensations she's feeling now that the drugs aren't in her system.

If her medication is still in full effect, she will need some guidance & encouragement when its time to push. There is a "right" way to push out a baby, and if you are numb from the waist down it can be hard to tell if you are doing it effectively.

Post-Partum

As part of my standard services I provide post-partum care and support for up to 6 weeks after the birth. Most people like to focus on labor as being the most important part of having a baby. And while it is immensely important to the physical, mental and developmental well-being of both mom and baby to have a good birth experience, those first few weeks at home are just as important.

Whether you had a medicated birth or not, every woman (hopefully) brings home a healthy new baby, which can come with its own set of challenges.

According to Birth Arts International (the organization I trained with) some of the advantages of having post-partum care include:

• Increased earlier bonding with mother and the whole family unit.
• Less chance of infant dehydration and hospitalization with health difficulties due to educated care
• A reduced amount of maternal postpartum depression and shorter duration and easier for mother to cope with it if it occurs
• Less maternal exhaustion, frustration, trepidation and anxiety during early weeks.
• Reduction in unnecessary calls to pediatricians
• The Partner can get back to work sooner with less anxiety
• More of an understanding of newborn emotional and physical needs and behavior
• More care choices, tools for dealing with relations and others.


So if you decide that a natural or a medicated route is for you, having a doula at your side can be a beautiful addition to your birth team.

Did you hire a doula for your birth? Planning a medicated birth but still not sure having one is right for you? Post your comments below!










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5 Simple Ways to Celebrate Earth Day with Kids

“Treat the earth well: it was not given to you by your parents, it was loaned to you by your children. We do not inherit the Earth from our Ancestors, we borrow it from our Children.” 

So today is Earth Day, but I only recently realized how awesome this planet really is.

Maybe it's because I'm getting older or because I get to watch my 2-year-old discover things like mountains and worms.

Whatever the reason, I've begun to notice the beauty that surrounds us everyday.

It's funny because kids do this automatically. They see a super tall tree and think it's amazing. They watch birds fly and think they're magical. We should all be so lucky.

As we crossed a bridge one day, headed towards the Catskill Mountains, my 14-year-old said to me, "You know, sometimes I forget how amazing the mountains are because I see them everyday."

Yea my kid's pretty special.

But he's so right. I feel like our appreciation for the planet is dwindling. From the way water gets pumped into our home, to how many bees it takes to make one jar of honey (it's somewhere around 600).

We've become disconnected from our relationship with it all.

Typically on Earth Day most of the world focuses on the 3 R's: Reduce, Reuse, Recycle. While I think those steps are extremely important, if kids don't see their connection to the earth, I believe they're less likely to care for it.

So here are 5 simple ways to celebrate Earth Day with your kiddos:

1. Plant a garden. I know this seems obvious, but it's so important for kids to know that food isn't made in a factory, or in the back room of the supermarket. Real food comes from the Earth. Your garden doesn't have to be massive to have an impact. A small backyard plot or even some potted plants, like tomatoes or lettuce will do just fine. Let them dig in, get their hands dirty, and watch their food grow. Once they see all the resources it takes, just to put fresh food on their plate, maybe they'll be less likely to waste it.

2. Go for a simple walk. There used to be a time where people just walked for the hell of it. I know it seems crazy, but people didn't do it for exercise while listening to music, or just to get from here to there, and you didn't do it while checking email or texting your friends. If you were taking a stroll you were also taking in the scene; birds chirping, wind blowing, sun shining, flowers blooming. It's easier to appreciate the beauty of nature when we aren't distracted.

3. Explore a new territory. My boys and I recently took a hike around Lake Minnewaska in upstate NY. There's all sorts of things you come across in the mountains that you don't see other places. During our jaunt we came across a cool porcupine, spotted some tadpoles in the lake, and saw the gorgeous valley below. Experiencing a part of nature that's unfamiliar and new can help your kids hold on to that sense of excitement and wonder.

Lake Minnewaska

My boys

Exploring


Well hello there Mr. Tadpole.

4. Re-purpose Old Toys. If kids only knew that every year, the United States generates approximately 230 million tons of "trash". Including their once beloved action figures, electronic equipment, or whatever else is no longer "cool" to them. One way to avoid the dump is to donate old toys to a local charity like Good Will. Another is to find a new way to use their stuff. Check out these awesome planters made from toy dinosaurs and an old fire truck turned into a lamp.





5. Go Dark. In a world where most middle school kids have cell phones, an iPod, a laptop, or some other device to keep them busy, you can get some quality family time and reduce your use of energy by unplugging for the day. At the very least in might force them to play outside.

We have to remember that everyday should be Earth Day, and if we want to continue to reap the benefits of Mother Nature we need to do everything in our power to protect her inhabitants and her natural resources.

Got any plans for Earth Day? Share them below!



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